Have you ever been in a conversation where someone made you feel like the only person in the room? They weren’t just nodding along, waiting for their turn; they were truly hearing you.
That's what great listeners do, and it’s also what great sellers do in business.
This week, we’re exploring this concept inside Commerce Connections, and it has sparked some valuable insights:
The people who close more deals aren’t necessarily the best speakers; they are the ones who listen the deepest.
We’re not talking about the kind of listening where you're just waiting for your turn to pitch. We're referring to listening with curiosity, presence, and attention that makes the other person feel safe, understood, and supported.
Why does this matter in business?
Because people buy when they feel seen. They refer others when they feel understood. Trust, the kind that generates long-term clients and word-of-mouth growth, starts in the quiet space between your question and their answer.
Within our community, we’ve been using a simple tool called The Listening Ladder. It’s a five-level framework that helps you slow down and really tune in. It's amazing what you notice when you do.
One of our members, Dennis Schrand, runs a tech support company, and you might expect his edge to be in systems or troubleshooting speed. But it’s not; it’s in how he listens. His clients stick around not just because they get answers, but because they feel heard.
That builds trust, and that trust builds business.
**Try This: Listening Habits That Build Trust**
Here are a few ideas you can incorporate into your next conversation—whether with a client, partner, or anyone else:
1. Ask follow-up questions, not just qualifying ones. Instead of just asking, "What's your budget?" try asking, "What’s making this important right now?"
2. Reflect what you heard. Saying something like, "So what I’m hearing is..." may seem simple, but it shows you are present.
3. Resist the urge to jump in. Allow silence to linger; this shows you’re not rushing to your own agenda.
4. Close with curiosity. Try ending your next call with, "Was there something you were hoping I’d ask that I didn’t?"
These aren’t scripts; they are signals that you’re here to understand, not just to sell.
Now, let’s bring it back to you:
When was the last time someone made you feel fully heard in a business conversation? How can you be that person for someone else this week?
We’d love to hear your story. Better yet, come visit us at Commerce Connections and sit in on a conversation that models this in real-time. Because sometimes, the most powerful thing you can say in business is nothing at all.
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